Ive seen this done, how do you list the DPS per member of a party?

DamageMeters

thanks!! that seems to be it, when i get home i'll download and test this out.  your response is greatly appreciated!

Better than Damagemeters is 
http://files.wowace.com/Recount/Recount-r53286.zip

With this it gives u dmg meter (including what attacks did what percent of your damage), heal meter, dps meter, hps meter, and my favorite.... it tracks the death of any member in your party so that you can check back and see the combat log of the last 15 secs or so b4 a member died which is great for determining causes of wipes (noob healers and people that cant follow directions are finally exposed)

Recount is also good for seeing who is using what abilities more often.  like if a dps warrior is using heroic strike too much or if a tank isn't using shield slam/revenge enough.

also, in raids you can watch live your total raid dps to gauge how you are doing for fights like Aran/Gruul etc.
just type "/recount realtime raid dps"

by the time i got around to downloading this, i went with recount...  i absolutely love it, i can play around with different patterns or spells and see what gets the best dps.  it also shows me just how effective amplify curse paired with lesser wizard oil is for my lvl 42 aff lock...  from around 90dps-over 110dps.  i can also see who's slacking in a group...  like this one jerkoff who wanted to run SM with a group i was putting together, did about as much total damage as my minion, not to mention aggrod mobs when he shouldnt have...  also needed that final weapon in the armory...  blackbook fuglyman (~38 rouge) on Antonidas server.  but on the brighter side, yea this tool also helps by showing overhealing, overall damage done, DPS, rage, etc.  very, very useful for tweaking my spell casting procedures.  very easy to use as well.  thanks again for the links

Yes, it's important to watch how newbies (we all are or was?),
so we can teatch them how to fight. :-)

It's satisfying to have double the next highest person's damage ;P