when addind gems some people tell me to stack stam, others say use stam, parry, and block, what should i consentrate on?

at the start to get into Kara, just put +12stam in every slot after your defencecap(490defence).

If you think the +12stamgems are to expensive(70g on my server) then go farm a bit, I cant expres how much I hate people with +6agility and +9stam in their gear.